The conversation with my stepmom

So this is how it went down... [I told her over skype chat]... I am YY... And she is AR or whatever lol. You will get the gist. 

[3/16/2011 8:49:52 PM] r: I hear Cris' girlfriend is pregnant?? 
[3/16/2011 8:50:00 PM] : yes 
[3/16/2011 8:50:01 PM] : Chris 
[3/16/2011 8:50:06 PM] Ar: when is she due 
[3/16/2011 8:50:08 PM] y: idk 
[3/16/2011 8:50:20 PM] r: how do you feel about that? 
[3/16/2011 8:50:25 PM] y: im fine 
[3/16/2011 8:50:29 PM] Ar: lies 
[3/16/2011 8:50:35 PM] yey: noo. lol 
[3/16/2011 8:51:05 PM] Aer: I know you still care about him, it is hard to have a kid and not care about it 
[3/16/2011 8:51:13 PM] Alr: I'm here if you need to talk 
[3/16/2011 8:51:20 PM] yy: i seriously dont care he can go to hell 
[3/16/2011 8:51:33 PM] Ar: ok, drinking tonight are we? hehe 
[3/16/2011 8:51:43 PM] yy: aha no I cant 
[3/16/2011 8:51:50 PM] r: why not? 
[3/16/2011 8:51:51 PM] Ar: Gram 
[3/16/2011 8:51:59 PM] yy: no 
[3/16/2011 8:52:06 PM] r: I would definitely drink with her around 
[3/16/2011 8:52:19 PM] : I have a beer in the fridge but I cant 
[3/16/2011 8:52:34 PM] Aer: why not, is the queen coming over 
[3/16/2011 8:52:43 PM] Ar: you're old enough 
[3/16/2011 8:52:47 PM] yey: yes but I cant 
[3/16/2011 8:53:07 PM] Aler: ok, I am not good at games, can't why... have a date? 
[3/16/2011 8:53:26 PM] yy: no bfs not coming over hes working.. 
[3/16/2011 8:53:44 PM] Ar: you might actually like your gram if you start drinking, heavily 
[3/16/2011 8:53:58 PM] Aer: what is his name anyway? 
[3/16/2011 8:54:03 PM] yey: Matt 
[3/16/2011 8:54:12 PM] yey: hes 24 
[3/16/2011 8:54:14 PM] Aer: matt....what 
[3/16/2011 8:54:23 PM] Aer: ok, you will be too 
[3/16/2011 8:54:32 PM] yy: father of 2 and one on the way 
[3/16/2011 8:54:52 PM] Aer: um, why are you messing around with him 
[3/16/2011 8:54:59 PM] yy: ... one on the way.. 
[3/16/2011 8:55:07 PM] Ar: your 
[3/16/2011 8:55:07 PM] yy: yes.. 
[3/16/2011 8:55:10 PM] yy: yes 
[3/16/2011 8:55:17 PM] yy: Im scared. 
[3/16/2011 8:55:23 PM] yy: I told nan last night 
[3/16/2011 8:55:28 PM] Ar: um, but he already has 2, does he have a wife to go with 
[3/16/2011 8:55:37 PM] yy: ? 
[3/16/2011 8:55:40 PM] Aer: you should be scared 
[3/16/2011 8:55:57 PM] Ar: how will you, what will you.. 
[3/16/2011 8:56:07 PM] yy: idk 
[3/16/2011 8:56:18 PM] yey: either keep it or adoption 
[3/16/2011 8:56:23 PM] Aler: i thought you were taking measures.. 
[3/16/2011 8:56:38 PM] ey: well I wasnt on the pill for 4 months then got with him 
[3/16/2011 8:56:41 PM] Aer: honey, how will you support another baby 
[3/16/2011 8:56:47 PM] yy: idk 
[3/16/2011 8:57:03 PM] Aer: i would be happy to help, i hope you know that 
[3/16/2011 8:57:09 PM] yey: I knoe 
[3/16/2011 8:57:11 PM] Aer: how does Matt feel about this 
[3/16/2011 8:57:25 PM] yy: hes just like me 
[3/16/2011 8:57:32 PM] yey: he doesnt know what to think 
[3/16/2011 8:57:36 PM] Aler: he is pregnant too??? 
[3/16/2011 8:57:43 PM] yy: aha 
[3/16/2011 8:57:44 PM] Aer: sorry joke 
[3/16/2011 8:58:05 PM] yey: I got an ultrasound done last week 
[3/16/2011 8:58:13 PM] Ager: well, does he have a wife??? 
[3/16/2011 8:58:16 PM] yy: no 
[3/16/2011 8:58:16 PM] Aer: and... 
[3/16/2011 8:58:23 PM] Aer: what does he do 
[3/16/2011 8:58:24 PM] yey: due 11.4.11 
[3/16/2011 8:58:30 PM] yy: hes a mall cop 
[3/16/2011 8:58:34 PM] yy: yes 
[3/16/2011 8:58:36 PM] Aer: Paul Blart 
[3/16/2011 8:58:50 PM] yy: aha 
[3/16/2011 8:58:53 PM] Ar: does he want to be with you 
[3/16/2011 8:58:56 PM] yey: yes 
[3/16/2011 8:59:02 PM] Ar: well get married then 
[3/16/2011 8:59:15 PM] Ar: move in with him, something 
[3/16/2011 8:59:37 PM] Aer: honey you know how hard it was with the Asshole 
[3/16/2011 8:59:37 PM] yy: I cant.. adrian school and everything here 
[3/16/2011 8:59:48 PM] Aer: so what, there are more schools 
[3/16/2011 8:59:48 PM] yey: I know.. but I just cant right now. 
[3/16/2011 9:00:04 PM] yvey: hell... I might get kicked out after the bitch finds out 
[3/16/2011 9:00:06 PM] Aer: you need to do something, now is as good a time as any 
[3/16/2011 9:00:16 PM] Ar: well, how is she not going to 
[3/16/2011 9:00:25 PM] Ar: um, gee you are gettiung fat 
[3/16/2011 9:00:41 PM] Aer: you need to be on your own anyway 
[3/16/2011 9:00:45 PM] Ar: live your own life 
[3/16/2011 9:01:02 PM] Alr: she is not your boss 
[3/16/2011 9:01:05 PM] yy: I know 
[3/16/2011 9:01:10 PM] Aler: well... 
[3/16/2011 9:01:21 PM] Ar: if you are happy about this... 
[3/16/2011 9:01:22 PM] yvy: Its realllllly hard right now 
[3/16/2011 9:01:29 PM] y: Im not happy about it 
[3/16/2011 9:01:30 PM] Aer: realllllllly hard how? 
[3/16/2011 9:01:37 PM] Alr: oh 
[3/16/2011 9:01:57 PM] Ar: I would be glad to take the baby if you don't want to or cant 
[3/16/2011 9:02:14 PM] Ar: and then you would still be able to be part of his/her life 
[3/16/2011 9:02:23 PM] y: leash I know you and dad would love to.. but I would never be able to go over there. 
[3/16/2011 9:02:36 PM] Ar: would it be better wondering 
[3/16/2011 9:02:47 PM] r: never being able to know 
[3/16/2011 9:03:09 PM] r: besides, no offense, but you dont come over much now 
[3/16/2011 9:03:54 PM] : and if you get kicked out, well I would like to think you would come here 
[3/16/2011 9:04:25 PM] : I am not trying to pressure you, just trying to help 
[3/16/2011 9:04:46 PM] Ar: sometimes it is better to have a plan, even if it changes down the road 
[3/16/2011 9:05:10 PM] A: so Matt is divorced or a single Dad? 
[3/16/2011 9:05:32 PM] Aliser: heeeeelllllllllloooooooo 
[3/16/2011 9:05:39 PM] Aer: are you still there 
[3/16/2011 9:05:46 PM] r: Mc Fly????? 
[3/16/2011 9:06:06 PM] y: single 
[3/16/2011 9:06:08 PM] y: never married 
[3/16/2011 9:06:19 PM] Ar: I know we have had our "problems" but i do love you and want to do what I can for you 
[3/16/2011 9:06:20 PM] yy: yes I just jhad to come upstairs 
[3/16/2011 9:06:25 PM] y: I know 
[3/16/2011 9:06:26 PM] Ar: gotcha 
[3/16/2011 9:06:39 PM] Aer: Does he have the kids 
[3/16/2011 9:07:00 PM] yvy: no but he sees hes oldest all the time 
[3/16/2011 9:07:02 PM] Aer: where does he live? 
[3/16/2011 9:07:09 PM] Aliser: how old? 
[3/16/2011 9:07:17 PM] Alr: why not the younger one 
[3/16/2011 9:07:31 PM] yy: and he tries and see the 2 yr old as much as possible but from what he said the mother is a complete cunt to him 
[3/16/2011 9:07:36 PM] yy: the oldest is 7 
[3/16/2011 9:07:47 PM] yy: in elsemere with a roommate 
[3/16/2011 9:08:10 PM] Alier: get a place nearby 
[3/16/2011 9:08:17 PM] Alier: see if he can move in and pay rent 
[3/16/2011 9:08:36 PM] Aer: 2 baby mommas 
[3/16/2011 9:08:41 PM] Ar: ?? 
[3/16/2011 9:08:56 PM] Aler: and what is his last name? 
[3/16/2011 9:10:18 PM] yvy: dallago 
[3/16/2011 9:10:39 PM] Aer: what does he look like, cute? 
[3/16/2011 9:10:45 PM] r: hair, eyes 
[3/16/2011 9:10:48 PM] r: tall 
[3/16/2011 9:10:51 PM] r: good teeth 
[3/16/2011 9:10:57 PM] r: i like good teeth 
[3/16/2011 9:12:04 PM] Ar: are you there 
[3/16/2011 9:12:10 PM] Ar: is Bubba in bed? 
[3/16/2011 9:12:21 PM] r: I can talk to you later if now is not good 
[3/16/2011 9:14:13 PM] r: call me if you want to talk 
[3/16/2011 9:14:21 PM] : ((hug)) 

I wanted to post this here because I didnt want to lose it. 

Coming across a few things..

I have seen somethings that have really gotten under my skin.

Someone posted "In an effort to expand our search and taking notes from other APs, DH and I had some "we're adopting" cards made up to pass out. Our AC and an attorney friend of mine, mentioned that we should give a few to our pastor and doctors (especially my OBGyn) that they could share if they came across a patient or member of congregation who was looking to place their child(ren). " in a parenting forum. And all that followed was that is brave of you to do. And yay that is a neat idea. All I kept thinking was really? How is any of that brave? That is another way to beg for kids.

And the other thing I have seen is tickers counting down when the birthmom is due, but they are calling the mom, Expecting Mom [or something like that]. And there is another one that has "paper pregnant".